“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
I hope you will apply this quote to your life and stop saying and thinking negative things about yourself.
For many years I would not even look at myself in the mirror. I was raised by my mom out in the country, and even though my dad lived in a neighboring city, we didn’t have a close relationship. My childhood was riddled with pain and I grew into an introvert with very low self-esteem and hardly any self-confidence.
One day in my late 40’s someone very close to me hurt me so deeply, I experienced pain on a level I had never known pain before. In hindsight, that pain was the greatest catalyst in moving me to self-love. I very distinctly remember looking in the mirror and telling myself that I had done nothing to deserve that pain, and at that very moment I fell in love with myself. I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that also in that moment God wrapped His arms around me the way a father comforts his daughter and told me that He loved me. And for the first time in my life I believed it.
I grew up in an era where people didn’t talk about their emotions. Much of what people did and felt was simply swept under the rug. I don’t know what you are facing today, but I encourage you to find a friend who will listen to you, and pray for you. And you do the same for her. When we are weak, God is strong. Invite Him into the midst of your pain. Look at yourself in the mirror and see yourself as God sees you. In His eyes you are beautiful. You are not your sins! You are not your shortcomings! You are not your failures!
You are beautiful!